Take time to release responsibility for the quality of your thoughts. Let them be; let them come, and let them go on their own volition. Do not judge and micromanage your humanity. There is pain, pleasure, and everything in between. Self realization does not mean the absence of this spectrum of human experience, but rather a surrender so profound that our humanity is allowed to seamlessly merge with our divinity.
If you’re going to commit to being a complete human being; you are going to have to realize that it is your hand on the dial. You cannot control what life brings you; but without a doubt you decide whether you intensify an object (mainly thoughts and feelings), or dial it down. It is your responsibility to use your logic and reason to see which objects relieve suffering and are worth energizing, and which ones increase pain in yourself and others. Fear, obsession, justified anger, expectations, blame, etc. are not logical; and should always be intentionally dialed down. Devotion to a benevolent force, love, compassion, patience, humility, forgiveness; and trust, should all be intentionally invigorated.