The ego does die, but it is not what many think. The caterpillar transforms into a butterfly, dies to his old form and can never go back to being a caterpillar. Yet, if you look closely, the main body of it still retains its caterpillar form. Recognize that you are an ego and do not pretend to have wings by using non-duality jargon. You intuit the source within; now offer yourself in deep surrender as ego incarnate to the fire of grace. It is this fire which burns away all that is exclusive and leaves in its place a refined personality under the sole sovereignty of God, which makes the will of the individual the will of the One. Hence, it stands that there is still a “me” and a “father” that are one.
It is all ego when there is still an “I” that wants to know and feels separate. Nevertheless, this is a natural part of the path easily verified in all children. So it is a question of what position is the ego taking? Does it seek to add to itself in the name of spirituality and enhance a character as this or that, a sense of exclusiveness, more spiritual, a teacher; and secretly wishes for the recognition and accolades that come with it? Or is it positioning itself in earnest reverence to mature at the foot of its maker so that it is made fit for service? Therefore it is not about getting rid of ego but rather discovering its holy purpose: to offer itself in profound surrender and devotion so that it may undergo a metamorphosis, be emptied and resurrected as divinity in human form.
The word “ego” symbolizes eternal unchanging awareness mistakenly identifying with ever changing form (mainly body and mind), which creates an exclusive “me” whose reality is based in separation. In turn, preservation of “mine,” my demands, my ideology, expectations, happiness etc.; becomes the primary focus.
Everything that challenges these positions becomes “them,” and suffering ensues. One need not look very long at their own life to see the extraordinary damage this thing does to human relationships; and to deny that is a grave mistake.
The whole point of discerning the ego from the true self is so a seeker can rediscover their eternal nature, and come back to the front of their body and fearlessly embody the ego. Then one is not afraid anymore to fully embrace and meet the dark side of humanity knowing that ultimately they are not humanity, but rather love itself.
As this Love, fully embody the false self. Wear it completely! Then offer it as a living sacrifice to truth. Then you will discover the true meaning of Oneness
The True Self is the source of all things including ego and the body. Therefore, the True Self sees itself in all things, hence has love for all things including ego and the body. Not because it loves these specific transient objects exclusively, but because it has Supreme Love for itself and recognizes itself in all things! This is why Jesus said “whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.” Therefore, we can conclude that all relationship between all things is actually God interacting with God.
You are referring to different parts of the spiritual path. In the beginning it is vital to be able to discern the transient from the eternal. Most if not all are born identified with form and that seems natural for children. Form by nature is fleeting; so if we believe we are nothing but form (mainly body and mind), then we suffer because we are constantly under the notion that we are decaying and that which we are attached to is always trying to slip away. So devotion will be geared and directed towards self- preservation.
Therefore, it is important to ask a question that points to the awareness in spite of mind and body; in spite of form. If one devotes themselves to the inquiry relentlessly they will discover that they are the observer of phenomenon. And suffering starts to ease up; there are some good days and some bad days as the seeker is still living in duality and has not transcended the opposites. Nevertheless, there is some space now between the awareness and the transient thoughts and body sensations. A monumental feat in and of itself. This is the practice of mindfulness. There is an awareness that must be mindful of ego and its tomfoolery. What happens to the ego here is that it is exposed, examined, and its mechanics understood and put in its proper place.
The spiritual seeker is ego incarnate willing it’s own demise. The free will of the ego is the mechanism that turns on itself in the pursuit of its own destruction once it realizes that it is “me” that obstructs the light; therefore taking the necessary steps to act as a means to its own end.
It is not about being free of ego but rather becoming it and then walking it into the fire of awareness that then purifies it and makes it translucent, allowing light but not the details of form to pass through it.