Do not impose your human experience on your relationship with divinity. In other words, we experience trauma, mistrust, people deceive us as children and adults etc because our humanity is not perfect. So we naturally learn to become guarded; perhaps rightfully so. The problem is we impose those experiences on our relationship with the Universe which is perfect. So our faith, trust, and surrender to the one thing that will never deceive us becomes jeopardized. Today we stop this my friends.
The truth is we just want the certainty and security that we naturally strive for as a child. Ripped from the womb at birth and then placed in a cold world, we just want our mother. As we grow we can not be shielded from the eventual loss of this security and must leave the nest of certainty and comfort. This pain is inevitable and acts as a catalyst for a metamorphosis in our mind, body and soul. Painful indeed.
Being free from fear, anger, sadness, depression etc., doesn’t mean the absence of these things. If you try to be directly free of these conditions then you set yourself up to be a partial human being. Freedom means a direct realization of ones eternal nature that exists in spite of these transient aspects of life. Therefore, have your bags packed each day and be ready to die to every aspect of your ambition. Including spiritual ambition. If you keep waking up well then do your duty as it presents naturally, and be grateful if you get the early release program.
The key practice when experiencing fear, depression, anxiety, and these other debilitating states; is to accept that they are present but never pledge your allegiance to them. Keep a small room in your heart for them and do not turn them into an enemy; but do not enable them by giving them your attention which only energizes them. Anyone who has lived with an alcoholic or an addict will know that feeling of enabling because you want to love them and see them changed. Fear is fear, depression is depression, anger is anger; you are not going to change them into something else by holding them close like little children.
The best way to handle an addict is to be fair but firm and do not give them the time of day until they seek to change themselves. Until then, you remove yourself from the situation, ask them to leave, or have them escorted out. This does not mean you do not love them, rather you are allowing for true love to exist without enabling a false love based on the desire to change the reality. One’s emotions, feelings, states of mind etc, must be dealt with in the same manner. Acceptance but not enabling under the false pretense that spending time with them is somehow going to change them.
Accept that the mind thinks and the body feels. Allow body and thought to move forward without you. Then, you may come to a clearing that opens up in the midsts of mind based activity. It is here alone, that grace will grab you and raise you up above the noise.
As long as a feeling of separation subsists, there is always going to be dualism. That which is separate stands apart, therefore can always be lost. Hence, fear will always exist where there is duality. We are born with the precondition that I am my body, and I am my mind, or I am form. Form is constantly breaking down and decaying, so we feel “I am” decaying. The body malfunctions and thoughts of who I am, my beliefs, demands, and mental positions; are increasingly challenged over time.
Here, we are cut off from the realization of our eternal nature and completely identified with the process of decay. Therefore, we suffer with fear believing we are going to lose our life (body and mind) at some point.
This base-line illusion of separation between the transient and the eternal is the root of all fear. Therefore, the only way to be free from fear once and for all, would be to experientially exist in spite of mind and body without a second of doubt.
Inquiry into this notion puts a seeker in proximity to their eternal nature, which is intuited but remains elusive. This intuition is enough to establish a deep reverence and love for It as worship being the proper function of duality; which then finally pulls down the grace that solves the riddle of the oneness between the transient and the eternal; destroying all separation forever.
We all dream, and during that dream it feels one hundred percent real. Every person can testify to this. Upon waking, you say, “I’m glad that wasn’t real.” The whole cast of characters was there in your dream: your husband, child, and friends. In the interactions, you felt emotions; there was laughing and crying. Then you woke up. Now you’re in the waking state, and you are experiencing interactions here in this state. What is the difference between the two?
The only difference is that in the waking state, you say the dream state is not real! The experiences in both states feel equally real, so real that when you were dreaming, you could not recall the waking state. But in both states, a consistent, unchanging consciousness was present—you.
Inquire into this matter and validate for yourself that you are that unchanging thread that both the waking state and dream state hang on.