One cannot go all the way without that concrete aspect and secret relationship with the Beloved. Eventually It chooses the aspirant because the devotee has chosen It to the exclusion of all other endeavors! And one becomes That.
Since it is the Source of all things once united, one inherits all things, including there former personality which comes back refined and perfectly under the control of the Self. To love the Source is to inadvertently love all that springs from It, while bypassing the details.