Yes. Often, the parts of our self that we marginalize tend to manifest in the people closest to us. In fact, what we resist tends to keep knocking at our door somewhere in our life demanding integration, no?
As a spiritual seeker who lives in a household, it is fitting that you are pushed away by external relationships so they you may turn inward and not seek Eternity in forms (people, concepts, sensations, etc.).
Can you stand completely alone in the midst of these personal relationships to wife, husband, kids, parents, job, etc.? When we stand completely free from seeking Eternity in outer transient forms and discover the Impenetrable Fortress Within, it is from that space that you can truly love your spouse. Why? Because it will not be based on conditions and expectations of them “being a certain way” and you looking for validation.
It will not be “them” that you love, but rather the inner yolk of eternity within all people, places, and things. With great perseverance seek that inner gem within yourself by turning away from the outer shell that goes by your first name. With great intensity devote yourself to surrendering both mind and body phenomenon.
Let these relationships show you where there is the confusion of mistaking the transient for the Eternal. Offer your thoughts and feelings that arise as a sacrifice to the moment.
“You can have me.”
Allow yourself to be humiliated and let the very people who you think are supposed to be supportive, martyr you.
With all the strength you can muster, drag the “me” into the purifying flames of humiliation, and offer it to Death, the One, the Lord.