It’s not about changing your humanity into something else but rather knowing yourself as the essence of humanity; and discovering ultimately that you are the totality of humanity yet none of it exclusively.
Just like a beautifully sculpted piece of clay. The sculpture appears unique with qualities and attributes; but in essence it always was and will always be just unaffected clay, regardless of the form it takes. The expression needs the clay but the clay is not dependent on being sculpted. At the same time they cannot be separated. So we can conclude that the clay is the form, and also not the form simultaneously.
You haven’t reconciled this conflict of duality because there actually is no duality to be reconciled. There is only one reality, the clay in spite of the form it takes. In the same way, all the diverse, dualistic, and conflicting attributes of having a body and a mind; are just transient sculptures made up of your unchanging essence and cannot be separated.
In this way, dualism does not oppose oneness. Therefore, who am I in spite of form? Should always be pursued until grace destroys the illusion of an exclusive me.